When you think of flirting, what is the first thing that springs to mind. If you are like most people, flirting is all about body language together with eye contact which are physical one on one things that cannot be easily replicated online. However, flirtation is not just limited to somebody in person, since it can also be done effectively by texting, phone, email or online chats, assuming you know how.
Flirtation in the real world is the flick of the hair, the timid grin, the sincere eye contact or the light brush of the other persons skin. Besides the physical aspects, flirtation also has a lot to do with what you say and how you put those words across and that is the part which can be effectually replicated online.
When attempting to date online, flirtation is perhaps the most vital step in developing interest and for taking a potential relationship up to the next level. Although a good ice breaker to start a conversation, it does require more than just sending an electronic wink to a prospective mate.
Following that all important first contact, it is vital to correspond in both a natural and relaxed manner. If you start making conversation just for the sake of it, the person on the receiving end will notice and they may get put off. Less is often more when communicating online and to that end, there is no need to compose long uninteresting paragraphs. A good rule is to keep your messages down to a maximum of five short, entertaining and cheerful sentences. Keep your words playful and positive and you will be well on your way to mastering the art of flirtation.
If you find yourself suffering from writers block, try studying the other persons online dating profile and then ask a question about something you find fascinating in them. Doing so shows that you are taking an interest and showing that interest is a definite turn-on. Watch out how you word the question, though. If you ask something which requires nothing more than a yes or no response, that is likely all you will get.
Another sure fire way to get a response is to write an intriguing tidbit about yourself without actually revealing too much. By doing that, you will probably spark the interest of the other person who will then write back needing to know more. Once that happens, you will, in all likelihood, have made a potential love connection.
Now that you are on a roll as far as communications are concerned, do not give the impression that you are overeager (even if you are) and bear in mind that part of the flirting process includes the art of playing hard to get. Rather than instantly replying to the person with whom you are chatting, keep him or her waiting a bit for your reply. Maybe an hour or so or even a day, but not any longer. If you leave it too long, the person with whom you are in communication with might get the feeling that you have lost interest in them. Getting to grips with delicate balancing act is all part of the science of online flirting.
One last piece of advice is to go with your instincts. If the chat does not seem to be right, do not spend too much time on it. Move on because there are plenty more opportunities waiting for you
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