Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Review: Scot McKay's The Leading Man

Here's my article on The Leading Man Review, the total relationship management system created by Scot McKay.

Do you want to be in the position to be the one controlling the relationship?

Do you always end up in dead end relationships?

Do you have really no idea how to keep a relationship interesting?

Well it's good to know that Scot McKay has created a system for men to learn how to manage a relationship after getting into one.

A lot of men know how to seduce women but very few know how to actually manage one. They have no real understanding how a relationship works.

I know I had this issue like many of the guys out there.

What is good about the course is that it is designed to teach you how to wear the pants in the relationship - that's what makes Scot McKay's The Leading Man impressive. You will learn how to keep your woman attracted to you, you'll learn what to say or act in every situation. Oh, the good thing is he also teaches you how to deal with drama!

The package is very comprehensive and has many hours of both audio and text support. If you dislike reading, then this would be perfect for you because you can listening to it in your ipod.

The thing that really impresses me is that it's the only one of its kind that teaches men how to handle long term relationships. It's not really a seduction guide for pickup though. This means if you are a complete newbie this program is probably not for you yet. If you can get a girlfriend but have really no idea how to keep a long term relationship. This course is the thing for you.

I have done a full review of it here, and you should check it out: The Leading Man

 

Product Review Carlos Xuma's Power Social Skills

Power Social Skils Review

Are you the type of guy to be shy?

Are you afraid of just talking to girls?

Do you need more help improving your social skills?

The good thing is that I was able to have a look at Carlos' new product called Power Social Skills to review it.

What really makes Carlos Xuma's stuff stands out is that it's helpful for every aspect of our lives and not only to dating or seduction. The program, Power Social Skills teaches guys how to deal with social situations that you had issues with previously. You also learn how to become more of a people person and know how to handle pretty much every situation that you may find yourself in.

In the comprehensive audio program that has over 15 CDs worth of quality content, you learn:

  1. The different types of behaviors that people have.
  2. How to deal with social manipulation and bad influences.
  3. The effects of psychology and how you can use it for your benefit.
  4. how to handle people who emotionally abuse you.
  5. How to avoid people with manipulative personalities.
  6. How mind control affects our lives and how to deal with it.
  7. how to avoid emotional vampires!
  8. how to handle emotional blackmail correctly.
  9. the destructive social manipulative games that others might play on you!

The detailed information provided was what I really enjoyed about the course. It was so comprehensive it covered your dating life, your business life and other situations that you might encounter.

Carlos Xuma has yet again provided us guys with a fantastic product that will improve all aspects of our lives and not just our seduction skills.

For your convenience I've done a full review of Power Social Skills and I think you should take a look at it before you decide if you need the product or to see if it can help you.

Honestly, have a good look at it, what else do you have to lose?

Check out my review here: Review of Powr Social Skills

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Flirting And Conversation Tips For Men To Use

Hey, Dean Cortez here with some more Tactical tips on boosting your dating game.

When you think about striking up a conversation with a girl, how do you picture it going in your mind?

Most guys think that conversation is about getting to know her, and letting her know about you, and being laidback and casual.

Just go with the flow, right?

Well, NOT if you want to get results.

If you want to GUARANTEE that you get her phone number and meet her again very soon ... or, bring her home TONIGHT (if the situation allows for it) ... you've got to get STRATEGIC with the way you converse with women.

Conversation is a TOOL that is going to get you where you want to go.  But in order to use this tool correctly, you've got to learn how to apply it and MASTER it.

This means no more awkward silences, while you wonder what to say next ... or feeling phony because you're relying on some stupid "pickup routine" you learned from some so called guru (who probably has trouble getting laid himself).

As a Mack, you're going to CONTROL the conversation and guide it along.

You're not just talking aimlessly, going with the flow, chatting about whatever topic she brings up. 

There is going to be a definite PURPOSE to every conversation you initiate with a woman, and a RESULT you are steering it towards.

See, when a Mack converses with a woman, it SEEMS like a normal conversation ... on the surface.

The woman doesn't suspect anything out of the ordinary: he just seems like a cool guy who has interesting things to say. 

Underneath the surface, however, he is following a plan.

He is building a RAPID CONNECTION with her.

He makes her feel a level of COMFORT with him that the average guy couldn't create, even after spending hours with her!

I absolutely believe in this material. When I meet a girl and converse for ten minutes with her, I create a sense of COMFORT and FAMILIARITY that most guys would never get after spending two hours on a date with her.

A buddy of mine, Greg, has become excellent at this. If you were to observe Greg at a bar, talking to a girl, you would see them laughing, touching each other, having a great time...like a couple that has been together for a while.

But usually, this is a girl that Greg met only MINUTES ago!

That's the magic of M.A.C.K. Tactics. You cut through all the crap, all the awkwardness and phoniness, and you create a REAL connection. Learning how to meet single girls never felt so easy.

You're also going to learn how to slip through the BARRIERS that women put up. This is their natural defense mechanism which they use to "screen out" all the WRONG guys.

In the M.A.C.K. Tactics book we go into a lot of detail about this. You'll learn ALL  of the steps that go into making a successful approach, building a bond, establishing comfort and rapport, and leading the encounter towards "closing the deal." 

For now, let's run down a few key pointers:

Keep the spotlight on her. Women love a man who listens and appreciates what she has to say. The more she reveals to you about herself, the more she feels "bonded" to you. (It's all about knowing how to ask the right questions. The way you phrase your words is so important.)

Cut through the small talk and take it to a deeper level. You don't want to waste time talking too much about jobs. Mention the things you are most passionate about, and get her to share hers.

(Get her to reveal a goal or a dream of hers, and be encouraging and supportive, and you're really in the door ... )

If you're passionate about your work, that's great. But don't dwell on the present. Talk about future possibilities.

And remember, if you're not yet where you want to be, in terms of money and success, you can generate strong attraction from women if you show AMBITION and PASSION.

The M.A.C.K. Tactics book has an amazing section on this ... if you're ready to jump in and start learning, click here:

http://www.macktactics.com

You see, an ambitious, passionate guy makes her feel, "this guy's life is on an exciting, positive track. It would be cool to be a part of it." 

Also, maintain a sense of mystery. During the initial conversation, it's best to leave questions about yourself unanswered. Make her want to learn more about her.

Here are some examples...

Which sounds better?

"I work as a waiter at a restaurant."

Or...

"I work in the restaurant industry. Right now I'm learning all I can about the business, because a few years from now I plan on opening my own place. What about you...I get the
sense you're an ambitious person, is there a goal you're working towards right now?"

(Here, you demonstrated ambition and passion, then you turned the spotlight back onto her.)

Which sounds better?

"I'm unemployed at the moment..."

Or...

"I'm checking out a number of different business opportunities right now, I like to stay busy. What about you, how do you spend your days when you're not working?"

Or, you might have achieved some success in your career. In this case, don't boast about it or go into detail.

Just ALLUDE to the fact that you're a sharp, successful guy with even bigger things on the horizon.

"Let's just say I'm good at what I do and I'm very well compensated. The hours are long, but I love it... and I'm learning so much right now that I'm looking into launching my own business. Have you ever thought about starting your own business?"

Any negative can be spun into a positive, and any positive can be phrased so that it BUILDS YOU UP in her eyes.

If you're ready to stop "playing the game" the way women want us to, you've got to check out the M.A.C.K. Tactics system and the FREE bonus products it comes with, including our 2-hour "TRAINING DAY" video series!

Click here to see all of it: 

http://www.macktactics.com

Your Wingman, 

Dean Cortez

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

How To Get Girl's Phone Numbers (And When To Call!)

By Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System For Men

 

A scene from the classic Vegas flick "Swingers" has haunted the thoughts of many men as they worry about when and how to call a girl.

In the scene, Mike (played by Jon Favreau) keeps nervously calling a girl he met earlier that night at a bar, trying to leave a message on her answering machine.

But the machine keeps cutting him off in mid-sentence. So he calls back, again and again, trying to finish what he was saying – until she suddenly picks up on the other end and tells him to never call again, blowing Mike’s fragile self-esteem to pieces.

Guys, don’t be like Mike. You need to know how often to call a girl. Here are some tips for you on mastering the Phone Game, which is an essential part of your dating success.

First, a note on scoring her digits: don’t ask permission. Make swapping numbers seem like a completely natural step. After around ten minutes of conversation, take your phone out of your pocket and tell her,

“Let’s exchange numbers, we should continue this conversation sometime.” Don’t wait for a “yes” or “no.” Just start programming her name in.

Even better, mention there are some parties/events coming up that you want to let her know about. This makes you sound socially savvy and plugged in, a characteristic of Alpha Men.

“Let’s swap numbers, there are some cool parties coming up that I want to let you know about.” (This is an appealing offer. Doesn’t every girl want to be in the social loop?)

If you’ve laid the proper groundwork, she’s going to go with your flow. She’ll give you her number, and you’ll give her yours. As the man, you’ll be the one to make the first phone call—but swapping numbers, rather than just getting hers, makes it feel like a fair exchange. 

Now, as you program her number in, say “I’ll have some free time on _____ (name the day of the week two days from now). What’s a good time to ring you?”

This eliminates any worries about disturbing her while she’s in the middle of something, or calling too soon. (Most guys fear that if they don’t wait long enough to call, they’ll appear desperate. This is nonsense. Find out when she’s available to talk two days from now, and call her then.)

NEVER ask permission for a girl’s number. As I explain in my book about how to get a girl tips, a woman’s response is going to be based upon the signals you are sending. When you ask permission (“Do you mind if I get your number?” “Would you like to go out sometime?”), you’re demonstrating weakness, and giving her the opportunity to decline. In many cases, she will—because when it’s a guy they don’t really know yet, women have far more reasons to say “yes” than no.”

Make her go with your flow, and you won’t encounter this resistance. You are comforting her with the idea that swapping numbers is a natural, harmless thing to do at this point in the conversation.

Now, when you make the call, here are some tactics to keep in mind:

1. No matter who answers the phone, announce who you are: "Hi, this is Mike. Is Sarah there?" This demonstrates confidence, and if a housemate or family member answers, you’ll establish rapport with them. This can come in handy later if you meet them. 

2. If they tell you she’s not home, just ask for her to call you back. Don't say anything about wanting to take her on a date. It will only make her feel embarrassed when they relate the message to her.

3. Never call her just to make small talk. Only call to plan a date with her, and have the gameplan already in mind. Keep the phone call under five minutes. You’ll have plenty to talk about when you meet again in person. Once the date has been set, tell her you’re looking forward to seeing her and politely end the conversation. 

4. Talk slowly and sound cheerful and relaxed. Your tone is very important. If you sound anxious and talk too fast, you’re going to come off as desperate and over-eager.

5. If she doesn’t answer, don't leave a message. In most cases she’ll screen the message and “forget” to call back. Make the call in the afternoon, and if she doesn’t pick up, call again in the evening. In Vegas, it’s especially important to find out what she does for a living and ask “when is the best time to ring you,” because a lot of women work night shifts and sleep during the day.

Waking her up and having to apologize sucks! (If you don’t get her on the line in your first two attempts, try again two days later. Still no answer? Forget her and move on, unless you’ve also got her email. I’ll get to that in a moment.)

6. Don’t send her a text message instead of calling her. This is an obvious impersonal wuss move, and the flirty energy and tone of your voice is important for making her feel comfortable saying “yes” to the date.

7. So what about email? In this day and age, it does make a lot of sense to get her email as well as her phone number. Women are far more likely to respond to an email than a voicemail message.

Here’s how to do it: instead of asking for her number, ask her if she’s got an email address. Notice the phrasing; you’re not asking for her address, you’re asking if she’s got email – sounds completely non-threatening. She will naturally write down her email for you. (Remember to always carry a pen.) As she does this, say “oh, write down your number, too.” Again, this sounds smooth and harmless.

Now you’ve got two ways to contact her. I suggest calling first. If you can't get her on the phone, send her a short, friendly email. Don’t propose a date; just ask her when a good time to call is.

When you connect on the phone, that’s when you’ll lay out the plan and make it happen!

 

 

Discover How To Attract Girls

Have you ever wanted to know how to attract girls?

Unlike what most people out there think, attraction between men and women is not something that just appears. I hate to break it to the women out there, it's not destiny that caused her to fall in love with you.

All members of the opposite sex are attracted to certain things in a man. Once you understand how to show women your sexy personality, then they will flock to you.

So what are these sexy characteristics that I am talking to you about?

You have to let her know that you're not interested in just being friends. Make sure you remember this, because if you find yourself in the friends zone, then you have no chance.

You have to let her know that you are a high status male and that you are the man. This means you need to be that guy who makes decisions, knows his purpose in life and is not afraid to say no to her - by being the alpha male.

Please, don't be that guy who has no standards of what he wants in life and just simply goes with the flow. It is very attractive if a guy has dreams and goals! It's even sexier to go out there and achieve them!

You need to stand out and be a challenge and let her know that just because she's a cutey she can't make you do whatever she wants. If you want to get hot women, you need to imitate what attractive women do. They also play hard to get and are being a challenge.

I know this post is a bit short... I'm a little rushed for time. But if you want a complete guide on How To Attract Girls including a sample conversation on how to sweet talk a girl, check out: How To Attract Girls

If you are not experiencing the dating success that you want, you need to go there right now and check out my site. Think about it, what else do you have to lose?

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Tips For A First Date

 by Dean Cortez, MackTactics.com

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Hey Dean,

I decided to finally break up with my (now ex) girlfriend. She’d been totally controlling and manipulating me for the past four years. So, I'm back out there dating, and feeling pretty optimistic. I met a really hot girl at a work function and asked her out. But I’ll admit I’m rusty with the “first date” stuff, I’ve been off the scene for a long time. Do you have any suggestions?

- Eric, New York City 

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In order to pull off the ultimate first date, create deep attraction, and hopefully steer things back to your place at the end of the night, you’re going to have to use the methods and conversation strategies that we explain in our book. But for starters, there are some fundamental first date tips for men to always remember:

* Keep your spending to a minimum. With first dates, never try to impress her by shelling out the bucks. This puts you in the wrong position. Maintain the attitude that this is her chance to sell herself to YOU, not the other way around. Meet her for coffee (not at a Starbucks -- find a cool, out-of-the-way, comfortable coffee shop for dates). Or, meet her for drinks. Skip the places that everyone knows, and find “date locations” that will show her you’re an original type of guy who knows the cool “off the radar” spots. 

BONUS TIP: Make her feel extra special by saying to her, “This is one of my favorite places. I think of it as my private sanctuary, I never bring anyone here. But I knew you’d enjoy it, so I wanted to show it to you...”

* Have a backup plan. The place you’ve selected could be closed for renovations, her ex-boyfriend might work there, who knows. Have a different location that you can take her to, if need be. The Mack is a man of action, and always has a complete plan.

* Plan on keeping the date brief. For a first meeting, 1-2 hours is usually perfect. You want an escape hatch in case she doesn’t meet your standards. (Never plan some all-day activity with a girl until you’re certain you want to spend that much time with her.) Also, unless you’re confident that you can take her home at the end of the night, it’s better to cut things short and create the sense that your time is precious and limited.

You should be the one to decide when the date ends. (“Well I’ve got a huge day tomorrow, I need to be up bright and early…we’ll have to do this again soon.”) Don’t stretch things out so that she’s the one checking her watch and telling you she needs to get home. End the date on a high point, before things start winding down, and plan on sealing the deal the next time you see her. As the greatest entertainers in showbiz know, you’ve always got to “leave ‘em wanting more.”

* Always be punctual. Don't be slightly late on purpose; it sets the wrong tone. Make sure you know the directions to the location, and arrive 10 minutes early so that you’re totally prepared.

* Dress appropriately. It’s always better to be a little overdressed than underdressed. You can  be sure she’s going to dress well for the date. She’ll feel uncomfortable if you roll in wearing a tee-shirt and shorts.

* Let her do most of the talking. Ask questions that prompt her to open up and share with you. Again, maintain the attitude that this is her chance to impress YOU. It’s better to be vague and cultivate a sense of mystery around yourself, than to tell her your life story within the first two hours. Let her talk about herself and share with you. The more details she shares with you, and the more you seem to appreciate what she’s saying, the more it feels to her like a connection is building. This elevates you beyond the average guy, who treats every first date as if he’s auditioning for the position of her boyfriend, and feels he needs to “sell himself” by talking himself up.

Visit MackTactics.com for many more tips for first dates, including ideas for first dates things to do. You'll also get a complete, step-by-step system for becoming massively attractive and confident with women.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

 

 

 

 

 

Saturday, January 17, 2009

How To Show Women Emotional Strength

by Dean Cortez, Mack Tactics Dating Instructor

 

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Hi Dean,

 

I’ve read your books, watched your awesome instructional videos, and learned some killer strategies for how to pick up a hot girl. And they really worked wonders. I've been dating a smart, beautiful girl for several weeks. The only problem is her chump ex-boyfriend, who’s still obsessed with her and keeps trying to get back with her. She says it’s over between them, but sometimes when we’re together he calls her and starts saying he can’t live without her, he just wants one more chance, blah blah, and then she gets all upset and emotional and it ruins our evening. I have to keep reminded her why they broke up -- the guy is a loser who cheated on her! So then why is she still worrying about him? And how do I get him out of the picture?

Jason

Miami, FL 

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Dean Cortez here with some special dating tactics for this situation...

Remember that as a Mack, you've always got to project strength and security to women. This means being firm and decisive whenever she is experiencing conflicting emotions. (Which, due to the delicate emotional nature of women, is bound to happen on a regular basis.)

She looks to you to provide this strength. In fact, women will frequently TEST you to see if you're "man" enough to show this strength.When you fail to do this, she's not going to feel secure around you and her attraction will diminish.

At this juncture, you're facing an important test. How you react is going to determine whether her attraction towards you grows deeper, or whether she feels you’re emotionally weak.  (And believe me, every time she blabs to her ex on the phone while you’re sitting there twiddling your thumbs, it makes you look really weak.) 

Weakness in the presence of women comes in many forms. One of the most common is the inability to be decisive, as demonstrated in the following phone conversation…

HIM:  I was thinking if you’re free tonight, maybe we could do something...

HER: What do you have in mind?

HIM: Umm, I'm not sure. Maybe see a movie?

HER: Are there any good movies playing?

HIM:  I could check...what type of movie do you like?

HER: Well, I really like scary movies. What about you?

HIM:  Um, scary movies, action, comedies, whatever. I know there’s this new movie with Eddie Murphy…

HER: Oh yeah, I saw the commercial. It looks sort of lame. 

HIM: Yeah, I thought the same thing.

HER: I'm kind of hungry, do you want to go get something to eat?

HIM:  Sure. Where do you want to go?

HER: What kind of food is your favorite?

HIM:  All kinds. What do you like?

This conversation could go in circles for a half-hour without any type of game plan being formulated. Does this sound to you like a MAN who is going to make a woman feel secure and protected? Being indecisive about picking a restaurant or a movie might seem minor. But when a woman is evaluating you as a potential mate, she needs to know that you are capable of making decisions and leading the way.

The Mack would have the plan worked out before he calls:

HIM: So, Amanda, you mentioned you don’t have work on Friday night. There’s a place I’m going to take you to eat that I know you’re going to love, and then we’re going to see this new movie that I heard is incredible. I'll be at your place at eight o'clock, we're going to have a great time.

HER: Sounds great, see you then.

In your situation, Jason, it’s important to be decisive about her ex-boyfriend drama. If she’s taking phone calls from him while she’s out with you, then obviously she still has feelings for the guy that she needs to work out. Don’t try to make her “choose,” and don’t make disparaging remarks about her ex because this might cause her to start defending him. Don't get caught up in the drama -- you want to be above it.  

 

HER: My ex keeps calling me. He's not such a bad guy, I feel bad for him. I'm not sure what to do.

YOU: You know what Michelle? I think you should talk to him tomorrow, when we’re not together, and work that situation out because I know you’re ready to move on. Take some time with it if you need to. I'll be here for you if you need me, but just let me know when you've worked it all out.

This reply show a lot of confidence. You’re not acting worried about losing her. If she does go back to that wimp, you know she’s not the kind of girl you should be with anyway. What makes the average guy stress out in this situation is his scarcity mentality: he fears he’s going to lose her and will jump through hoops to hang on.

The confident man, on the other hand, maintains a mentality of abundance. He knows there’s no shortage of beautiful, drama-free women who respect him and his time. He is telling her how it's going to be -- she will either move past her ex boyfriend, or he is going to move past her.

Be decisive and certain about your world. Women are bound to get emotional and anxious at times, and when they go into that state, demonstrating firmess and certainty is what will bond them to you.

If you're ready to turbo-charge your dating game with women, and become the ultra-confident, attractive man that makes the ladies feel instant attraction, visit MackTactics.com for the best dating advice and more than 101 high-powered strategies and techniques for getting the women you want and deserve.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

 

 

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

How To Be Massively Confident With Women

by Dean Cortez, MackTactics 

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Hey Dean,

I purchased your programs, Mack Tactics and the Bad Boy Blue Print, and both are fantastic. They are filled with extremely helpful conversation tactics and strategies. (I found the “Conversation Control” and “Negotiations” chapters to be especially helpful.)

To be very frank with you, I was basically an introvert, and after learning your material I have a new understanding of what Attraction is and how it works. I've started to broaden my social network, and I'm meeting more women.

I've learned many great strategies for how to meet single girls, but in this process of development I have a question for you. I am still unable to get the bigger picture of life. I am not getting the “feel” of being a Mack (or an “Alpha Man,” as you also say). Simply put, I understand how to talk to women now…but how can I feel like I can “back it up?” 

I want strong Inner game because only that will lead to success in the long run. Please help me out with this.

Thanks for everything,

- Richard

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Dean Cortez replies:

Richard, you hit the nail on the head when you referred to this as a “process of development." It is a mission that never ends. There are no magic solutions that are going to transform you into a cocky, confident, smooth “ladies’ man” overnight.

The same way that when you decide to get in better physical shape, you’re not going to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime after three workout sessions in your basement.

The most important thing my Mack Tactics program does is give you a rock-solid FOUNDATION so that you can start meeting more women, pick up on girls, and start dating them with more style, originality, and confidence.

So your question, basically, is how can you start feeling more confident. I want to talk to you about this for a moment.

There are a lot of corny books full of dating advice, and they all basically say the same thing: “Be confident." "Women really dig confident guys.” Blah blah…

Duh! That’s completely OBVIOUS. But the big question is, how do you actually get more confident with women, and get rid of your shyness or anxiety?

It’s like telling a short guy, “Be taller. Then you will get more phone numbers, dates and positive interactions.”

Or telling a skinny guy, “Be a big, muscular hunk. That’s the secret.”

Uh, yeah, OK…but how the heck is that realistically possible?!

Here’s how it works. Confidence is created through success, and success is gained through skill.

It’s a three-step process:

  1. Learn the tactics and skills you need to talk to women.
  2. What happens as a result is, you start getting way more successful with girls.
  3. The more success you have with women, the more your confidence grows.

Your confidence level will shoot up as you keep getting more skilled with women. You begin to understand that walking up to hot women, or dating a few different simultaneously, is totally possible. If you want to go out and pick up girls in bars, it’s not a scary thing that causes anxiety. It’s actually a lot of fun!

But you’ve got to learn to walk before you run. I want you to build up your confidence in small increments. If you only measure “success” by how many beautiful women you sleep with, you’re going to keep feeling frustrated and disappointed in yourself.

So over the next week, I want you to make this a goal: you’re going to meet three new women and get their email addresses.

NOT their phone numbers. Just get her email address!

AND, you’re not going to try to “trap” girls into talking to your for 20 or 30 minutes. 

YOU will be the one to end the conversation first!

See, the average guy thinks a conversation is a “success” if he can keep the girl talking for a long period of time. He’ll meet a girl at a bar and tell her his entire life story in the first half-hour! As long as she isn’t blowing him off, he thinks that he’s making progress.

Actually, she’s probably getting awfully bored of this guy, but she’s too polite to walk away…

I want you to take the opposite approach. I want you to go into the conversation knowing that you’re only going to spend 5 minutes talking to her. So then you're going to get her email, head off, and get in touch with her the following day.

Talk to girls using the techniques laid out in the M.A.C.K. Tactics book, and after chatting for 5 minutes or so, say to her, "It was great meeting you, I can tell we've got lots to talk about. Or, "I get the feeling that you and me have a lot of things in common.") "Hey, before I go, do you have an email address?”

Notice how I phrased it. The concept of phrasing -- being aware of how you choose your words and put them together -- can make the difference between failing and succeeding with women, and I explain this in detail in the M.A.C.K. Tactics book.)

I didn’t say, “Can I get your email address?”

I didn’t say, “Do you mind if I email you sometime?”

Instead, I said: “Do you have email?”

Of course she has email! Everyone does. She’ll say “yes,” and now you’re going to take our your little notebook and pen (a Mack always carries these items) and hand them to her. Say, “write it down for me.”

See, when you ask a girl for PERMISSION, this gives her the opportunity to say “no.”

If you ask her, “Can I get your phone number?”, she might think of the NEGATIVE possibilities. (Maybe this guy is going to call me all the time and annoy me…)

But when you simply say to her, “Do you have email?”, and give her the paper and pen, she probably won’t think twice about it. She writes down her email address for you, and then you'll head out and contact her tomorrow.

Are you with me?

Do this two or three times over the next week, and I guarantee you are going to feel a confidence boost like you haven’t felt in a LONG time.

If you go to bars or clubs, don’t take an “all or nothing” view: “I’ve got to hook up with a girl TONIGHT, or else this is a waste of time, and I suck.”

For now, I want you to enjoy a few short, fun conversations with women using your Mack Tactics… no pressure, no big expectations… and go home with some email addresses. You can translate them into dates.

And in the meantime, you are REPROGRAMMING yourself for success.

In the past, when you were talking to an attractive girl, you were probably thinking “where do I take it from here? What should I talk to her about next? How can I make sure women don't see me as boring?”

NOW you’re thinking, “I’m only going to give this girl five minutes of my time, and I’ll contact her on email tomorrow if I decide I want to take it further. I do this frequently, and it isn't any big deal.”

Start having lots of these “mini-conversations” in which YOU are the busy guy who needs to go. You want to leave her in a curious state of mind. I know you'll be thrilled with the results, and how this makes you feel.

Go Tactical!

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

 

Can a Strictly Casual Sexual Relationship Last?

By Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System For Men

Dear Dean,

You have some great advice about how to meet girls .Well, about a month ago I met a girl at a club, we hit it off, and wound up back at my place. The sex was off the hook. I was interested in dating her, but she said she wanted to keep it casual. Since then, she’s thrown me a few late-night “booty calls” when she’s out at the clubs with her girlfriends. I meet her at her house, we both get off…and then she asks me to leave. I used to dream about having a hot girl I could have sex with, no strings attached, but now I’m falling for the girl and don’t know if I can keep up this arrangement. Should I just enjoy this “relationship” for what it is?   

Robert, Las Vegas   

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This reminds me of a conversation I had with my friend Amanda recently. “Friends with benefits is the way to go,” she declared inbetween sips of her martini. “I’ve got this hot guy friend named James. I met him on an Internet dating site, we hooked up, and we’ve been each other’s ‘booty call’ ever since. If one of us is out at the bar and winds up horny and alone at the end of the night, we call the other person and meet up for sex. No drama, no questions, just great orgasms. I don’t even know his last name, and I prefer not to.”

The way Amanda explained it, it sounded so sensible and utilitarian: headboard-banging sex with none of the drama or expectations that come with a serious relationship. But I knew it was only a matter of time before her perfect arrangement imploded, and within two weeks, it did.

James blew off one of her 2am booty calls because he was able to get a hot girl at a club, and suddenly she felt like the second banana: how come the other girl gets dinner and a movie, and she’s only good for drunken romps after last call for alcohol?     

The fact is, no matter how cool and casual you both try to be about a “friends with benefits” arrangement, emotions creep into any sexual relationship. It’s natural and inevitable. Since you’re not technically dating each other, you’re free to see other people—but when one of you starts seeing someone else, that’s when jealously rears its ugly head.

In the end, no one likes to feel like “Option B”—the person we drunkenly dial when we’re unable to score a more attractive option.

Still, it seems a growing number of young singles are opting for casual sexual relationships. Finding a suitable partner isn’t as difficult as it once was. A few decades ago, a single woman would rather hide out in a darkened apartment on Saturday night than let her neighbors know she didn't have a steady.

These days, she can post her picture on AdultFriendFinder.com or Craigslist.com to find a sex partner for the night (and you’d be surprised how many women do). Then again, if you’re an attractive member of either gender, the Vegas nightlife scene provide endless options—including a ton of out-of-towners who are up for a weekend fling. 

But when the sex extends beyond one night, few of us are immune to feelings of jealousy and confusion about “where things are heading.” As Richard’s letter illustrates, while many single guys say they’d prefer to have casual sex with various women rather than commit to one, they succumb to these emotions just as easily as women do. They just do a better job of concealing it.

My advice? If you’ve got a “booty call” arrangement with someone, enjoy it while it lasts—but don’t expect it to last long. And if you want it to remain casual, don’t spend the night together. Do the deed, and if you’re at the other person’s place, head home afterwards. Sleeping over encourages cuddling, post-sex talk, and uncomfortable morning-after questions. (On the show “Seinfeld,” Jerry and Elaine had a set of rules: no sleepovers and no next-day phone calls.)

A final word to the guys: you’ve got to know how to please your woman in bed if you hope to develop a friends-with-benefits arrangement. “I don’t bother with booty calls or one-night stands anymore,” says Jessica, a 26-year-old veterinarian. It sounds like a hot idea, but usually the sex is over in two minutes and the guy passes out. And don’t even get me started on the time that drunk guy had an ‘accident’ in my bed…”

Perhaps Mike, 33, says it best: “I’ve tried the ‘buddy system” with chicks. For a few weeks, or maybe a month, it’s cool—but in the end, someone always winds up getting hurt.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are You a Single Parent Dating? Here Are 5 Tips

To date or not to date? This is a tough question that single parents must answer for themselves. If you have decided that you are ready to enter the dating scene, you will need to prepare yourself and your child for this new part of your life.

It doesn't matter whether you are casually dating or are looking for a new person to parent with – your child is involved and that means there are some important things you need to consider. Here are five tips for single parents who are entering the dating scene.

1. Always keep your child in mind.

Understand that the bond between you and your child will outlast any relationship. It has more depth and importance than your dating life, and should be treated with the same respect. Make sure to explain to your child, in an age appropriate way, what dating is all about and how things in their life will change. Emphasize the ways things will stay the same (like you will always love them the same). Explain, in a way that feels appropriate to you, that grown ups need companionship.

2. Present yourself as an entire package.

Any person whom you are dating has to understand that your role as a parent is important. If they try to minimize that role or try to move you away from it, think twice about going any further in the relationship. Any prospective partner should have respect for you and the realities of your life. This also means that you should be open and honest about your children. Present yourself as a single parent. If it's a deal breaker for a potential love interest, they weren't worth it. If you want to try online dating, do keep in mind that some online dating services, such as Matchmaker.com, cater to a more mature audience (typically 30 or older) that are focused on finidng more serious long-term relationships. EHarmony and Yahoo Personals are also reputable choices. (Click the links above for current coupons and free trial offers to these dating sites).

3. Introduce new friends slowly.

Some single parents are so eager to set up a two-parent household that they end up going too fast with the relationship. In a matter of weeks, their new love interest is spending lots of time at the house and the child is beginning to think of the love interest as a parent. When the relationship ends, the child feels loss and confusion over the role of the adults in their life. Keep your relationships separate from your child until it is natural for the new person to come into their life. This way, you minimize the change that a child experiences when you have several people coming through your home.

4. Make time for yourself.

Between your child, your job and your new dating life, your "me time" may get lost in the mix. Don't forget to take time to pamper yourself and address your needs. If you're refreshed and relax, you'll be better able to give all that you can to the other people in your life.

5. Listen to your children.
Children are very perceptive when it comes to people. If they dislike the person you are dating or seem uncomfortable around them, pick up on these clues. The new person in your life may be hiding something from you or might cause a rift between you and your child.

Monday, January 12, 2009

How To Get the Bad Boy Edge and Attract Women

by Dean Cortez, MackTactics.com

It’s a question that has tormented the average man since the dawn of time, or at least since the invention of tattoos and motorcycles: what is it about “Bad Boys” that women find so damn irresistible?

Why do women like bad boys? Why do beautiful girls dismiss the “Nice Guys” who are willing to pledge their hearts and paychecks, and plunge instead into high-drama relationships with arrogant players? What is this Bad Boy attraction all about?

The list of famous Bad Boys throughout history is endless. Lenny Kravitz romped with Nicole Kidman. Supermodel Kate Moss couldn’t shake her addiction to the low-life junkie rocker Pete Doherty. Pamela Anderson  (who is in desperate need of Bad Boy rehab) terminated her latest marriage to some shady dude whose claim to fame was making and selling a sex tape with Paris Hilton. Before him, she survived tempestuous marriages to Tommy Lee and Kid Rock.

A lot of women will tell you they found Tony Soprano incredibly sexy. Never mind the fact that he was a murderous criminal, and regularly cheated on his wife with strippers at the Bada Bing club; he was an Alpha Male to the core, a straight-ahead, no-apologies, hyper-masculine figure that women find irresistible despite all common sense. 

For several years, Kevin “K-Fed” Federline was the reigning Bad Boy of the tabloids. While he’s easy to mock, K-Fed did manage to bag the most famous babe on the planet at the height of her career. Britney Spears overlooked the fact that he was broke and already had two kids by another woman; she was enthralled by his cocky Bad Boy swagger.

When their relationship inevitably imploded (amid allegations of K-Fed’s infidelities), she went into a tailspin. When women break up with their Bad Boy obsessions, they often go into nuclear meltdown mode. The Bad Boy’s psychological grip on women is that powerful.  

This phenomenon is on full display in Las Vegas, my home turf. The nightclubs are crawling with slickly dressed Bad Boys, surrounded by fawning women in the VIP booths. At the summertime casino pool parties, you’ll find another type—the white-kid “gangsta” Bad Boys—showing off their tattoo-covered torsos and piercings. They wrap hot chicks around their fingers the way no millionaire lawyer or doctor could ever hope to.   

At the strip clubs, the sexiest dancers often date the bottom of the Bad Boy barrel. It’s a safe bet that the “perfect 10” who pulls down $2,000 a night in tips goes home to some gangsta wanna-be who blows her earnings on weed and Xbox games. If not, she’s probably banging the DJ or the bouncer with the neck tattoo and roid-rage issues.   

The attraction, if you ask me, is rooted in the female DNA. Women are subconsciously seeking a man who makes them feel secure, who has the ability to protect her and their offspring. It’s the same instinct that drove women into the arms of Bad Boys 10,000 years ago, when survival actually did depend on hooking up with a guy who could defend his nest (or his cave).

In this day and age, one doesn’t need the physical strength to slay dinosaurs or fend off barbarian hordes. Bad Boys don’t need to have money, either. It’s their emotional strength that women are drawn towards. They play by their own rules and have unstoppable self-confidence, which means they’ve possess survival tools that sensitive “metrosexuals” lack.

Another element of the attraction is that women want what they can’t have. I explain in my books how women are hard-wired to push a man’s buttons and test him, in order to determine whether he’s an Alpha Male or a Nice Guy pushover. This is part of the female “screening process,” as they determine which men are suitable for them to nest and mate with—and which guys lack the qualities that she’ll need in order to feel secure, both physically and emotionally.

Meanwhile, Nice Guys bend over backwards to avoid drama; Bad Boys give women all the drama they can handle. For women, the emotional rollercoaster of dating a Bad Boy—who’s always got other hotties on speed-dial, and is constantly challenging her to hold his interest—becomes addicting. (As Commandment #1 of the Ten Mack Commandments states, “Flee and they will follow; follow and they will flee.”)  

If being an eager-to-please wuss has held you back in your dating life, it’s time for you to start incorporating a Bad Boy “edge” into your attitude. First, stop making yourself constantly available to women. Ideally, you should live a full enough life—and have enough women in your orbit—that you really aren’t free any night of the week that a woman wants to see you. But until you reach that level, you can send the message that you live a rich, busy Alpha Male lifestyle by simply taking a different tact when women want to make plans with you.

Let’s say you exchanged phone numbers with a hottie the other day. She calls you up and says, “Me and my friends are going out tonight to the bar, do you want to come meet up?”

WACK RESPONSE: “Definitely! I can be there in an hour.”

MACK RESPONSE: “Well, I have some appointments tonight…but if I can get freed up a bit later, I’ll try to stop by and make an appearance.”

There’s a major difference in how a woman will perceive these two types of responses: you’re either the typical, eager-to-please dude with nothing else going on his life, or you’re the Mack who fits women into his schedule, and only sees women at his convenience.

(What are your “other appointments?You keep this sort of mysterious intentionally. Women will usually be suspicious that you're hanging out with OTHER girls, and that's good! You'll trigger her jealous, competitive instincts.

Next, it’s critical that you are a decision maker instead of always putting the ball in her court. You need to know that women prefer NOT to have to make decisions. This has to do with how they’re wired. Men are wired to operate according to logic, and to solve problems so that they avoid uneccessary bullshit and drama; women are ruled by their emotions, which are constantly shifting and can erupt into drama for no apparent reason. (Women subconsciously seek to create drama, especially when they’re in relationships, as it serves to make their partner reassure them and confirm that he’s there to support her.)

A woman can experience turbulent emotions over something as simple as making plans for next Saturday night, or figuring out which dress to buy. As a man, you’ve got to be the emotional rock who makes the decisions and puts her emotions in check. 

By always making the necessary decisions and laying out the gameplan, she will be compelled to follow your lead. This, in turn, makes her feel secure with you.

Let’s look at another example. You call a girl to plan a date…

WACK APPROACH: “So I was thinking, maybe if you’re free sometime, we could do something…”

MACK APPROACH: “You said you don’t work on Friday night, and there’s this awesome new cafĂ© with great music that I want to show you. I’m going there Friday around nine o’clock, I can pick you up and we can go together.”

Most importantly, stop broadcasting your interest. Never make it obvious that you’re into a girl; Bad Boy seduction is about always keeps women guessing. This means no more complimenting women on their beauty, confessing your attraction, or being available anytime she wants to see you or chat on the phone. Don't give direct answers; be playful and evasive, and never act easily impressed. 

This attitude is manifested in the way you converse with women: the conversational tactics I teach include playfully teasing women and throwing out little “challenges” to see if she meets your high standards, rather than taking the typical approach—which is to talk about yourself and try to impress her. 

There’s a scene in The Empire Strikes Back that says it all. Han Solo (played by Harrison Ford) is about to be dragged off to the deep-freeze chamber. Princess Leia only has a couple of seconds to say goodbye. The sexual tension and attraction has been building up between them. They share a passionate kiss, and she blurts out, “I love you.”

Han looks at her coolly and says, “I know.”

That’s a classic Bad Boy reply. It comes down to being the prize instead of the pursuer. Master this attitude and you won't need to cover your bodies with tattoos, or become an Ultimate Fighting Champion, to drive women wild.     

 

 

 

How Men Get Addicted To Women

by Dean Cortez, MackTactics.com

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Hey Dean,

I met a girl a few months ago and we started dating. I really thought she was the one; we couldn’t keep our hands off each other, and the sex was AMAZING. My friends weren’t so enthusiastic about it. They told me about her reputation for sleeping with a lot of guys and cheating on her ex-boyfriends. But what I can say? I was falling in love.

I wanted to make our relationship exclusive and make her my girlfriend, but she told me it was too soon and we should both be able to see other people. Well, she wound up meeting some other guy and choosing him over me. I was totally depressed for weeks. Finally, when I thought I’d gotten over her, I went to a party—and there she was, with her new boyfriend. Now I’m even more depressed than before. Should I make one final effort to get her back? What if she really was the one?

Steve, Detroit

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For guys out there who want to know how to meet single girls, one of the most powerful male desires we must overcome is the desire to “possess” women. The popular assumption is that women are the more possessive gender, that they’re the ones who want to “lock down” their men and jealously guard them from other females.

But just as often, it’s men who feel the need to possess.

We see the following scenario unfold all the time. After a period of loneliness and frustration, having faced rejection and disappointment on the dating scene, a guy meets a girl. They hook up and have sex. Finally, he feels like the black cloud over his head has lifted. He thinks he may have found “the one.”

When they’re spending time together and she’s being affectionate towards him, he feels euphoric; when they’re apart and she’s not returning his phone calls right away, or is unavailable to hang out with him, he feels despondent.

When we look back on those periods in our lives, we usually wonder what the hell we were thinking! But there’s a reason why you behaved the way you did, and the answers actually lie in science. Yes, there is a science behind love—and it’s an addiction that has brought many a man to his knees.

When you start dating a girl and having mindblowing sex—especially if you’ve been out of the game for a while—an intense chemical reaction is occurring in your brain. The effect that a new woman (and more specifically, good sex) has on a man’s brain can be even more powerful and hard to shake than an addiction to cocaine.

When we “fall in love,” dopamine and norepinephrine levels rise, and serotonin levels fall. This is actually the same state that cocaine sends our brains into. Helen Fisher, a psychologist at Rutgers University, conducted a study in which she broke down love into three stages: lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage is fueled by different hormones and chemicals.

Stage One, Lust, is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. Stage Two, Attraction, is when you’re love-struck—constantly thinking and talking about her. Scientists believe there are three main neurotransmitters involved in this stage: adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin. These chemicals send your stress response into overdrive. When you bump into her unexpectedly or call her on the phone to plan a first date, your heart starts racing; you start sweating; your mouth goes dry.

Fisher studied a number of “love struck” couples and examined the chemical content of their brains. She found they all had high levels of dopamine. This chemical creates an powerful rush of pleasure that leaves the brain wanting more and more. Surging dopamine levels give you increased energy, diminish your desire for sleep or food, and make you intensely focused on your object of desire.

Meanwhile, the level of serotonin in your blood plummets. Dr Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa in Italy, conducted a study with twenty couples who'd been in love for less than six months. By analyzing their blood samples, she found that their diminished serotonin levels were equivalent to the levels of patients suffering from OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder). In effect, when you’re in this love-struck state, you are mentally ill.

One of the effects of this “chemical cocktail” is that you begin to idealize the woman. You focus on her positives and find ways to explain away her faults. You also romanticize the relationship itself, believing it to be something unique and incredibly special. If your buddies take a different view of her and warn you against getting involved, you don’t listen. You get defensive. THEY don’t know her the way you do!

We’ve all been through this at some point when we are trying to find girls to pick up: we develop an infatuation with a girl that our friends warn us against. At the time, we refuse to acknowledge the warning signs that should have been obvious. Later on, when the relationship crumbles, we feel foolish for not having realized it sooner.

But at the time, we were powerless to the chemicals surging through our brains. We were, quite literally, “addicted to love.”

Another element of sexual chemistry is the hormone oxytocin. Men and women release this hormone during orgasm. It makes them feel “bonded” to each other after they’ve had sex. (Oxytocin is also known as “the cuddle hormone.”) We want to experience this high as frequently as possible, which is why we usually screw like rabbits in the early stage of a relationship.

When a couple stays together for a period, the lust stage progresses into the attachment phase, and other chemicals take over. The hormone vasopressin starts playing a key role. This, too, is released after sex. Scientists came to understand vasopressin’s importance in relationships by studying the prairie vole. Like humans, prairie voles engage in far more sex than is necessary for the purposes of procreation, and they also form pairs with the opposite sex.

But when male prairie voles were given a drug that suppressed the effect of vasopressin, their bonds with their partners instantly began to deteriorate. Their devotion to their partner ceased, and they stopped caring about guarding them from other horny males.

Fisher says that "falling in love" causes the main three signs of addiction. The first is tolerance. Drug addiction usually starts with casual use; you’re using the drug at parties, or only on weekends, and gradually your usage escalates as you start craving it on a daily basis. The addiction of love is no different. At first, you might only be seeing her on her Sundays; then you want to spend entire weekends with her; then you want to see her whenever she is available, even if it means ditching your friends or your work. Then you want her to move in with her. You want to be around her all the time, and make sure no other man can possess her.

The second characteristic of addition is withdrawal. When you’re hooked on a drug, being deprived of it causes physical discomfort; when you’re hooked on a girl, being separated from her causes anxiety and depression. Romantic love rewards your brain with that delightful flood of pleasurable chemicals; when it’s taken away from you, you become obsessed with regaining that feeling. In most cases, it’s not her you crave. It’s the sensation you get from being with her, and your desire to end the discomfort of withdrawal.

The final characteristic is relapse. So you stop using the drug, or you break up with a woman, and after a period of depression you finally feel like you’re “over it.” Then you spot her at a party months later, and those intense desires return. You’re right back in love, obsessed with her all over again. If she welcomes you back, you’ll leap back into the relationship without considering all the crap she put you through.

When a woman you “love” stops seeing you, and your brain is suddenly denied those pleasurable chemicals, depression sets in. This, too, is a neurochemical state. Over the last couple of decades, scientists have figured out the chemistry of depression and come up with ways to treat it. Antidepressants such as Prozac and Zoloft have been touted as miracle cures. What they actually do is quite simple: they raise the serotonin level and suppress dopamine, which balances you out. You’re not experiencing the “lows” of depression, but you’re not experiencing the highs, either. These drugs present a Catch-22 for the broken hearted, because although you may no longer be depressed over the girl, they may also prevent you from falling in love again. Your brain is no longer producing the pleasurable chemicals that make you fall head over heels.

After spending months (or years) trying to learn how to pick up girls at bars, there’s no greater feeling in the world than falling in love and knowing the feeling is mutual. Our brains behave this way for a reason; the need for this exhilaration ensures that our species will continue to reproduce and survive. This information isn’t meant to discourage you from finding “the one” and living happily ever after.

But understand the science behind it. Next time you experience these euphoric feelings, but your buddies are pleading with you to run the other way, guess what: they’re usually right. I'm sure you know guys who didn't figure out this lesson until after she had wrecked his life (and finances).

Also remember, every brain is wired differently. Some people can enjoy a few beers once in a while; others will compulsively drink themselves into oblivion the moment alcohol touches their lips. The same goes for drugs addicts and people with eating disorders. If your romantic history is filled with out-of-control, obsessive relationships, then the “love chemistry” in your brain—or in the women you’ve dated—is probably imbalanced or jacked up to a higher level than the norm.

This can result in some very hot, passionate relationships, but remember that love is like a flame: it can keep you warm at night, or it can burn your house down.

 

 

 

 

Friday, January 9, 2009

The Five Main Turnoffs For Women During Dating

Women are pretty hard people to please, especially on first dates and guys should really know about the things that turn them off and make them glance at their watch often. This means they want to leave gentlemen, and all your effort, that new shirt you bought, the cologne, the gift you brought along will be all put to waste by just one mistake.

Some guys make a combination of mistakes which means a strike within half an hour. It is time that more men in the world are happy and not left wondering why they are waiting at the side of the bar alone for the date that just had to go to the ladies. These are 5 dating turnoffs for women men should really know about. Firstly, it is punctuality. Never, ever be late and no matter how good your excuse is, you have already ruined the date. Arriving late on dates are simply a no-no , this shows total disregard to them and her fire would probably be snubbed in a wink. Just like a war makes an investment market plunge, her opinion of you will fall faster than rocks from height – so keep a good eye on the time and if you can, be there a bit ahead of schedule.

Another thing, dress good and pay attention to detail. It isn’t the 80’s anymore, so mismatched socks and messy hair doesn’t work unless your name is Sid Vicious. Dress casually in something you can pull off and never overdress for an occasion. You know how women always say that men always don’t listen? Well take that advice too heart. Whether or not women seem to have always something to say and men have something else to look at, it is always good to appear that you are listening and at least answer some of her questions. Make positive remarks now and then complimenting her on her dressing and all. This usually will top her charts pretty fast. Don’t be a lecher and leer all over her. Letting her know that your interest s in that one and only thing is simply a turn off.

Gaze deep into the windows of her soul and flash your best smile facing her face. No matter how plunging her neckline, remember, this is a test, and this is a test you must pass. If you must have a look, try to pull it off as a joke or do it discreetly. She wants you to look but she also wants to see if you can practice some self restraint. Women are tricky that way. And don’t get high or drunk on the first date, especially when you guys set it up at a bar. It is bad form. And don’t try to ply her with drinks; women know when you are just being generous or trying to get her drunk and in bed. If you have all these pointers in mind, any man will be successful on a first date, the rest is up to your personality and know how.

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Carlos Xuma Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion Review

If you are one of those guys thinking about improving your ability to talk to women, then this post is just for you!

Carlos Xuma one of the most well regarded seduction experts in the field of dating has released a product exclusively for men who want to improve their conversational abilities with women. The title is Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion.

I have enjoyed the contents of Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion so much that I am going to write a biased review for it. The course is very complete and comes with fourteen cds and two special bonuses. These bonuses are exceptional in terms of quality and I don't know he would offer them for free. The bonuses are good in terms of quality, one of them is a 270 minute audio program and the other is a 72 page manual.

You will learn from the course a lot of things that you don't even realize you're doing wrong when speaking to women.

What is inside this program? Well... you'll learn:

  • Inner Game
  • Core Conversational Skills
  • How To Speak to Women
  • NLP and Persuasion tactics
  • How to build rapport and cold read
  • How to defend yourself gracefully verbally
  • How to deal with difficult people
  • How to be funny
  • How to hold power conversations
  • Exercises for you to engage in to improve your skills

Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion is geared towards men who want to improve their life overall. Admittedly you will learn a lot to improve your overall ability to deal with people and not just with women, so it is not one of those typical dating products per se.

Just a warning, the program is not for lazy people looking for the magic pill quick fix for their problems. You can't just listen to it and not do anything about it, you need to take action in order to succeed.

For a thorough review of Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion, check out: Alpha Man Conversation and Persuasion Review

Friday, January 2, 2009

Here's A Quick Look At Double Your Dating

To save you time and money, I have provided a quick review of Double Your Dating for men who have heard about this book and would like to read it for themselves!

David DeAngelo's book covers a lot of topics, but the ones I found most interesting were:

  • being yourself
  • differences between the sexes
  • dispelling myths and misconceptions

Should you just being yourself?

Being yourself is not what is important, instead the author teaches men that they need to be the best self. It is important that a lot of guys first learn how to be interesting to women, because when they are "just being themselves" they fail at getting women. So you need to stop worrying about trying to be "yourself" and learn how to not be yourself to get women, then learn to incorporate that skill into their own personality!

What makes the gender roles between the sexes different?

In the book, David talks about how men and women differ and why men nowadays are confused. Most men in modern society have become brainwashed by the media. They believe that they need to be nice guys, or wussy boys in order to get women. That is where the issues arise. Girls and women in general like men who demonstrate characteristics of a man. I find it interesting that a lot of guys are totally confused and start to act like girls. That is why men nowadays are not sucecssful with women, because a lot of them act like a women themselves!

Misconceptions dispelled

Society has given the impression to men that in order to get women they need to be either, tall, handsome, rich or powerful. This is not true at all. The reason for this is because having these qualities in your personality shows women that men with these elements have a high social standing. Having materialist objects is not a requirement to show that you have a high social status. The author shows you how to convey these traits into your own personality so you can get girls without being rich or famous!

My conclusion

This was just a quick review of David DeAngelo's book, Double Your Dating. I enjoyed it thoroughly and I have provided a full and comprehensive review of it here: Double Your Dating Ebook Review